Julie S. Lalonde

@julieslalonde

6x award-winning feminist buzzkill. Franco-ontarienne du nord de l'Ontario. 🏳️‍🌈 Femme. I teach community care for a living and wrote a book about why resilience is futile, babyyyy ✌🏻 Actually fun™️ 📍Ottawa, Canada YellowManteau.com

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Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· 27d

Just got back from a few days back home & can confirm it is still a beautiful place that needs to be protected + even the most Conservative people I spoke to are alarmed & talking about how this is not our normal. Met lots of fire rangers who were giving people info on how to stay safe.

View of highway 17 in Northern Ontario with a clear blue sky and bright green trees.

A coin purse with Smokey Bear on it, a patch with a fox that says "Be FireSmart" and a patch that says "Prevent wildland fires in Ontario"

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 15

.@abortionrightscan.bsky.social put up this billboard in London, Ontario recently & because of anti-choice complaints, the ad company Billboard Hub wants to take it down. Please email Billboard Hub & tell them not to capitulate to losers who don't understand healthcare! yourfriends@billboardhub.ca

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 15

Hope is not naivety. Read some @rebeccasolnit.bsky.social before you even *try* to come at me with "Well, actually..." cynical bullshit. This is where I'm sitting. Meet me there or get the hell out of the way.

Hope locates itself in the premises that we don’t know what will happen and that in the spaciousness of uncertainty is room to act. When you recognise uncertainty, you recognise that you may be able to influence the outcomes – you alone or you in concert with a few dozen or several million others. Hope is an embrace of the unknown and the unknowable, an alternative to the certainty of both optimists and pessimists. Optimists think it will all be fine without our involvement; pessimists adopt the opposite position; both excuse themselves from acting. It is the belief that what we do matters even though how and when it may matter, who and what it may impact, are not things we can know beforehand. We may not, in fact, know them afterwards either, but they matter all the same, and history is full of people whose influence was most powerful after they were gone.

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 15

We are experiencing the world's worst air quality, and we're getting absolutely no response from leadership other than announcements about building more pipelines. Do not normalize this.

A screengrab of the weather app showing a Yellow Heat Warning for Ottawa and the headline that Ontario faces world's worst air quality

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 14

Please stop voting for people who are horny for pipelines. I beg of you.

An image of the weather app for Ottawa showing it will be 37°, feels like 47° by 4 p.m today

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 13

"Hunt for the Wilder People" is my favourite movie of all time and it would be nothing without his performance. RIP to a real one.

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 12

Taught 74,000+ people bystander intervention at Ottawa Bluesfest this weekend! Opening for acts as varied as Limp Bizkit, Hank Azaria, Marc Rebillet, Hardy, DJ Champion and Cody Johnson is a helluva trip. A wild time but grateful for the space to teach community care!

Photo of Julie on the RBC Stage at Bluesfest with a large crowd of country fans in front of her

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 11

To then immediately get whisked off stage to open for Marc Rebillet? Bananas. 🍌😂

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 11

Just presented in front of 35,000 Limp Bizkit fans. They were R O W DY & a contingent in front kept chanting to drown me out. Hella ironic considering my message was how to intervene as bystanders. 🙃 But baby, we held our ground & lots of folks locked in. Stay safe, Ottawa! ✊🏻

A large crowd at golden hour standing in front of Julie on the RBC Bluesfest stage

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 10

If you saw someone getting groped on the train, would you step in? If you heard a man going on a racist tirade in a Costco, would you intervene? Give me 1 hour of your time and I'll teach you 5 ways you can safely de-escalate harassment in public spaces. zoom.us/webinar/regi...

Stand Up!
Free bystander intervention training
July 13 at 7pm ET

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 10

Ever been the one lady in yellow rubber boots in a sea of cowboy boots? T'was me tonight, opening for Cody Johnson. Taught bystander intervention to 15,000+ country music fans because my life is many things but never boring! Also got to open for DJ Champion & that ruled. He's a great time 🪩

Julie on a Bluesfest stage in yellow rubber boots with a large crowd of cowboy hats watching.

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 8

I'm offering a FREE bystander intervention webinar next week in response to all the requests I've gotten as a result of this story. 7-8pm ET FREE! Cameras/mics muted, so you're not on the spot PLEASE help me spread the word! Registration: zoom.us/webinar/regi...

STAND UP! Free bystander intervention training
July 13 @ 7pm ET

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 2

Climate change is a killer hellscape that we will not get out of with mere 'personal responsibility.' We deserve systemic responses and we deserve elected officials that make it happen.

A screengrab of the weather network showing it's +32C, feels like +42C in Ottawa today with a tornardo risk in some severe storms

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jul 1

It was +46C before the rain started and it's due to go back up to +39C by supper time. It's also supposed to be +46C tomorrow. The "Well, actually..." smarminess of some of you is legit making me LOL. I did not lie or exaggerate. This is not normal weather.

Hourly weather report for Ottawa showing "Feels like 39C" by 6pm

Weekly weather report showing tomorrow afternoon feeling like +46C

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jun 22

I can't read stories about incels killing people & treat it as another news story. Not just because I work in the field of violence prevention but because this is what my inbox looks like on an average day.

I have to say there is an over-representation of "male hating" in the media which is marxism under the name of "women's rights."

Quotes like yours further divides and keeps people like me single without going into the biochemical basis as to why especially males are virtually always portrayed as the aggressors.

I have sent similar emails to other so-called "experts" as yourself and have gotten very hostile replies from them.

I hope you get raped. I hope someone puts a bullet through your head. I'm going to keep looking for your address, I going to kill you.

You are a disppicible human being, people like you are nothing more then a cancer on society! (Typos are theirs, not mine)

This is your raper from hell letting you know idk wtf I was thinking raping a dumb bitch like you. You're ugly on the outside as you are on the inside. lmao ps pussy was trash

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jun 21

It's official, baby! 🥂

Stop intimate partner violence and femicide
The law gives the justice system stronger tools to intervene earlier to sexual violence, gender-based, and intimate partner violence before that violence turns fatal. More specifically, the changes:

make femicide first degree murder, the most serious homicide offence
create a new offence of coercive control in intimate relationships, targeting patterns of threats, isolation, or manipulation before violence escalates
update criminal harassment provisions to make them easier to prove in court
make it a crime to threaten to distribute non-consensual intimate images, including sexual deepfakes
increase the maximum penalty for sexual assault on summary conviction, non-consensual distribution of intimate images, and voyeurism

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jun 17

Famous comic of someone saying "We should improve society somewhat" and someone responding "Yet you participate in society. Curious! I am very intelligent."

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jun 5

To be clear, I'm not mad at this writer! I think she nails the discourse perfectly. I just wish the discourse would be real about the fact that nobody, including me, wears 120mm Louboutin stilettos with no platform, for the comfort! That's not what they're for!

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jun 2

Text that reads: you met me at a very everyone needs to pick up a fucking book because we're in a fucking literacy crisis in my life

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jun 2

They're both so hot and so happy and their origin story is that they met at a party and realized they were reading the same book. All this nonsense manosphere dating advice for men when the reality is, if you want to snag a baddie like Dua Lipa - pick up a damn book and get cultured!

Gorgeous photo of a very happy Callum Turner and Dua Lipa exiting the courthouse after their civil wedding. They're both dressed impeccably and are smiling while people throw flower petals at them.

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jun 1

Evergreen:

A post on LinkedIn from Paul Danhauser that says : Whenever AI bros say "get on the train or be left behind" I'm all like "There's child pornography on that train, I'm good y'all, worst of luck and please crash."

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· Jun 1

Anyway, Happy Pride Month from a queer in Ottawa whose Pride isn't until August 😂

Scene from Muppets Christmas Carol with Scrooge yelling "You there, gayboy, what month is it?"

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· May 25

I'm not a runner & the marathon start times are hella early. And I'm not a morning person! But the energy of thousands of people in the streets, hyped up & cheering each other on is really infectious. Grateful to have trained 28,900 (!!!) runners and their supporters at Ottawa Race Weekend!

Photo of Julie standing in front of the corral section of the Ottawa Race Weekend 10K race

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· May 24

My brand is strong.

Screengrab showing someone added me to a list called Annoying Foreigners

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· May 24

Anyway, I was at Ottawa Race Weekend today teaching runners bystander intervention to end street harassment because community care is what actually keeps us safe. But hey, governments never wanna fund *that* I've earned the right to talk shit because I do the damn work.

Image of Julie holding up her hand to signal the number 5 while standing in front of a large crowd of marathon runners

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· May 21

Remember when Rona Ambrose was like "Hey, people in law enforcement should actually be trained to understand sexual assault" and Canadians were like "wait, you mean it's not mandatory for them to know this?!" Clearly, it is not.

When Ms. Butlin went to court for her peace bond hearing on Aug. 30, the provincial court judge said her allegations seemed “well beyond a peace bond.” He adjourned the hearing, forwarding her application to the Crown Attorney’s office and urging police to investigate.

The RCMP did review the case, the report says, but “instead of using this opportunity to identify and correct the serious deficiencies in the sexual-assault investigation, the RCMP supervisors concurred with the conclusions initially reached, and continued to fail to appreciate the level of threat Ms. Butlin was facing.”

Three days before she was killed, she attended a meeting with police at the detachment where they informed her the investigation was officially closed.

By this point, according to the report, Ms. Butlin was sleeping with a baseball bat by her bed, and told family and friends that she feared for her life.

On the night of Sept. 17, Mr. Duggan showed up at Ms. Butlin’s home, calling out to her through the window. He had a shotgun, and when she came to the door, he fired one shot through the glass, killing her.

Mr. Duggan fled, and was arrested after a shootout with police in a nearby cemetery. He was charged with first-degree murder. He pleaded guilty in June, 2019, to second-degree murder and was sentenced to life in prison with no possibility of parole for 20 years.

The commission reviewed more than 20,000 pages of RCMP records, 25 hours of video and audio recordings, and conducted 36 interviews with witnesses, both police and civilian. The commission concluded that “almost all of the RCMP members involved in the matter lacked a basic understanding of the law of sexual assault.”

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· May 21

As someone who has called police & been told I was exaggerating the threat to my safety, I needed to just get a peace bond & relax, etc. my heart breaks for all the women in this story who were downright abandoned. 3 days before she killed, she met with police who told her they'd closed her file.

On Aug. 7, 2017, Ms. Butlin called the RCMP to report that her next-door neighbour, Mr. Duggan, had sexually assaulted her in early July, after she’d welcomed him in for a drink while babysitting her grandchildren.

After a 15-minute phone call, the initial responding officer concluded that her complaint – the specific details are redacted in the report – was unfounded. A second female officer also dismissed her concerns.

Ms. Butlin was told she could apply for the court to issue a peace bond, which would order Mr. Duggan to stay away from her.

Over the next month and a half, as she awaited her hearing on the peace bond application, concerns about Mr. Duggan escalated.

On Aug. 21, Mr. Duggan’s wife secretly called 911, according to the report, telling the dispatcher she feared her husband had a gun and was “going to kill the neighbour.” Her 911 call ended abruptly with yelling and crying, the report notes, after Mr. Duggan realized she was on the phone with police and kicked in the door of their home. She tossed her phone and fled the house, barefoot.

Officers responded and Mr. Duggan was charged with impaired driving. He was released the next morning without conditions.

“Despite this alarming sequence of events, and the specific information provided, the RCMP members did not take meaningful steps to assess or address the serious threat to Ms. Butlin’s safety,” the report says.

Five days later, on Aug. 26, Ms. Butlin called police again after receiving intimidating text messages from Mr. Duggan, pressuring her into abandoning the peace bond proceeding. The RCMP member who took her call determined the messages were not criminal in nature.

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· May 21

It's in the name, babyyyy! 🏆

Photo of the PWHL team Montreal Victoire celebrating their Walter Cup win

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· May 20

Ottawa runners! I'll be at the start lines and festival stage for Ottawa Race weekend again this year. While you're getting corralled, I'll be on the mic giving folks a quick crash course on bystander intervention & the importance of building a safe & inclusive running community. See you there!

Photo of Julie and a DJ on stage at last year's Tamarack Ottawa Race Weekend

Julie S. Lalonde@julieslalonde· May 19

Have you ever seen someone get groped on the bus? Ever overheard slurs being thrown around at a coffee shop? Maybe you've been out for a walk and witnessed catcalls? We're not powerless to stop this nonsense. Bystanders can make a HUGE difference! Truly. Let me teach you! zoom.us/webinar/regi...