“The idea that pastors get to decide whether a woman is ‘abused enough’ to get a divorce is ludicrous.” —Julie Anne Smith The Life-Saving Divorce, p. 64 #LifeSavingDivorce #SafeChurches #SpiritualAbuse #ChristianDivorce

In this new post, I share 3 ways the trad wife ideal can leave women unprepared for destructive marriages, why some Christian premarital teaching misses serious red flags, and why sincere faithfulness is not enough to overcome another person’s lack of character. buff.ly/e7JhD7S #TradWife

"The problem wasn’t that you trusted—it was that your spouse took advantage of that trust." The Life-Saving Divorce, p. 379 #LifeSavingDivorce #BetrayalTrauma #ChristianDivorce #ToxicMarriage #SpousalAbuse

Divorce isn't always a sign that something went wrong. Sometimes, it's the protection God built in. ✝️ Moses didn't just allow divorce for mistreated wives — he commanded it. It's time Christians had a more nuanced view. Watch the full message at buff.ly/mX397jv #lifesavingdivorce

You don't have to stay in a marriage that's destroying you to prove your faith is strong. 🕊️ God sees what's happening behind closed doors. #lifesavingdivorce #biblicalmarriage #domesticabuseawareness

When you've spent years holding everything together, choosing safety can feel like breaking. But what feels like breaking may actually be your way out. #LifeSavingDivorce #DivorceRecovery

We talk a lot about the ideals of marriage in church. But almost never the minimum standard. 💔 What's the line no spouse should cross? And why are we so afraid to draw it? Watch the full video at buff.ly/ikXL3AY #lifesavingdivorce #biblicalmarriage #domesticabuseawareness

I asked divorced women one simple question: "Did you keep your married name?" The answers were varied. Some kept it for their kids. Some couldn't bear carrying an abuser's name one more day. Some invented a brand-new last name entirely. See their responses here: buff.ly/c5i6Ozk #DivorceRecovery

Despite what we were told, 73.9% of mothers with children under 18 participate in the labor force (2025). Among MARRIED mothers with children under 18, participation was 72.1%. This surprised me because Christian radio and books promoted the idea that MOST moms were stay-at-home moms.

BOOK REVIEW: His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley Jr. This bestseller has a lot of ugly. Like most "affair-proof your marriage" books, it repeatedly blames the wife. Her body, her labor, her appearance — all framed as the husband's safeguards against sin. Full review here: buff.ly/kZ2nrFL

New article: “Why is my spouse pushing for a FAST divorce?” In a controlling marriage, speed can be pressure—to accept a bad settlement, rush custody decisions, or sign before you understand your rights. Review my checklist of documents to gather before signing anything: buff.ly/G4tQ149

The 21 Catholic Annulment Grounds. How are they different from divorce? Read my latest blog post: buff.ly/PIsIIxa

Lord, though I walk through the Valley of the Shadow, you are with me.

The UK is moving away from automatic 50/50 child custody — and it should make Americans pause. Custody isn't about adult fairness. It's about child safety. Children are not property to be divided equally. They are precious human beings who deserve protection. Read the blog post: buff.ly/EnNBJ10

Part 4: Is Your Spouse Lying? Why Counseling Often Fails Marriage counseling assumes good faith and truth-telling from both people, but what happens when you have a manipulative spouse? Read my latest blog post on this topic: buff.ly/EAffGZt #lifesavingdivorce #gaslighting #christiancounseling

Part 3: Is Your Spouse Lying? What Behavior Actually Gives Away a Lie Amount of eye contact and fidgeting show zero reliability for detecting lies according to research. Their calm is not evidence of honesty. The real clue is their behavioral pattern. buff.ly/Mp6vcEM #lifesavingdivorce

Many people think they can spot a liar but research shows body language is weak evidence for detecting lies. In marriage, the stronger evidence is the pattern — repeated concealment, changing stories, gaslighting, blame. Read Part 1 of my 4-part series on "Is Your Spouse Lying?": buff.ly/iDkkcJa

Some people ask: "How could you not have known your spouse was lying?" But science shows your brain is wired to trust who you love most — and abusers exploit that. Read my latest blog post on this topic: buff.ly/oZ8moSV #lifesavingdivorce #gaslighting #emotionalabuse

Not every pastor is safe for this conversation. 💔 Some will minimize your spouse's abuse as "communication problems" — then make your anger and your boundaries the real spiritual problem. That is not biblical justice. That is control. You can love God and refuse unsafe counsel.

Bookmark this and share it: I put many of my best resources in one place: buff.ly/tilKvor This page includes 20+ topics with links to helpful books, videos, articles, and specialty Facebook pages for Christians facing abuse, betrayal, destructive marriages, co-parenting, recovery, and rebuilding.

Thinking about leaving—but not sure where to start? 💔 I've created an updated Escape Plan checklist for those who are in destructive marriages: buff.ly/Facp2d8 If you're in danger, don't wait. Get to safety first. Call 911 or The Hotline: 1-800-799-7233. You are not crazy. You are not alone.

This is a reminder to single parents: You don't need to introduce a new romantic partner to your children's lives. It's not necessary, especially if you personally are loving, stable, and emotionally healthy. Kids can turn out great just by having one good adult in their life. ❤️ #lifesavingdivorce

A 2025 study confirmed it: the pain of divorce is real — but not permanent. Women returned to their emotional baseline and reported even higher life satisfaction over time. If you're in the thick of it right now, hold on. Healing is likely. 💛 📖 Blog post: buff.ly/hL3cn6i #LifeSavingDivorce

"If you leave with the kids, I'll have you arrested." This threat keeps many protective parents trapped in dangerous situations, and often, it's a false accusation. New blog post breaks down what you actually need to know: buff.ly/YKZoXbF #domesticabuse #lifesavingdivorce #domesticabuseawareness

We were taught to love, love, love. And forgive, forgive, forgive. But the Bible also says to get away and stay from abusers. Those verses exist. We just weren't shown them. buff.ly/W6yshyD #lifesavingdivorce #domesticabuseawareness #biblicalmarriage

If no one told you today... 🕊️ You're allowed to protect your peace. #lifesavingdivorce #domesticabuse #emotionalabuse

"My therapist called it abuse" — and it took months to accept that word. But for many Christians, these patterns ARE abuse. ▶️ Interview with @littlewomenfarmhouse up on YouTube! #domesticabuseawareness

"Forgiveness is different than putting yourself in a situation where you're going to keep being harmed." –Alisha Roth Forgiveness doesn't equal trust. 🕊️ Watch my full interview with Alisha Roth (@littlewomenfarmhouse), author of Courageous Divorce on YouTube: buff.ly/OUe6D3f #biblicalmarriage

Some marriages are quiet not because they're healthy — but because one spouse is silenced, spiritually pressured, or exhausted from keeping the family looking fine. That's not peace. That's survival. #lifesavingdivorce #emotionalabuse #domesticabuse

Sometimes leaving isn’t the end of your story. It's the beginning of your safety. 😇